How to have a Bondage Vacation PART THREE

Luckiboy has sent in part 3 of his “how to have a Bondage Vacation”. If you’d like to ask him any questions, just leave the question in the comment area.

Thanks again to the very handsome and sexy Luckiboy for sharing.

-Ruff
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“How to have a Bondage Vacation”

Part Three

by Luckiboy

So far I’ve discussed: Being certain you want to have a bondage vacation, finding a Dom with whom you are a match, communicating before the captivity, and preparing for the trip. I’ll now move into the bondage vacation itself, but first a word about contracts.

Contracts

I have to admit, I am incredibly turned on by contracts. Just reading one gives me an instant erection. The terms it lies out so precisely and definitively are the best mental representation of your impending experience and as such are incredibly erotic.

Contracts are not necessary and some Doms don’t do them at all. However, there are two great reasons to create one. First, it clearly lays out the rules by which you will play and holds the Dom to them just as much as you. Second, it gets all the negotiation out of the way before hand. This way, when you are there you can focus on serving within the established bounds and fall deep into the submissive headspace. This will help ensure that it’s a meaningful experience for you…and the Dom.

And now a word of caution: Make sure you understand the contract 100%. Make sure you understand every term in there, everything that will be required of you, and every right that you are giving up. A Dom will hold you to the contract you sign.

Captivity: Down Time

There is a lot that can be discussed about the actual time of captivity. I think there are probably enough photos, videos, stories, blog posts, etc. to inform your perception of play time, of how a boy can be used and abused in bondage. But what happens in between? Just as life isn’t one long porn video, an extended bondage scene of 24, 48, 72 or more hours is not one long play session. I’ve yet to meet the Dom (or sub) who could physically keep up with that. If nothing else there are certain natural phenomena that need to be attended to.

You will find yourself bound and not used for significant periods of time. Depending on what you’ve discussed with the Dom, these could be complete breaks (perhaps with you locked in chastity), rest periods (where you might be locked in a cage with a pillow and some water), or “storage” (where you are at least fairly significantly bound and kept that way until needed by the Dom again).

Know what you can deal with, physically, emotionally, and mentally, before you find yourself in a situation that you won’t be controlling. Experience will inform you, so don’t jump three steps ahead. And you can always let the Dom know during your captivity that you can take more if you find that you can. He’ll love that, trust me.

But even the most experience players can run into trouble. Not so long ago I found myself in a sleepsack nearly alone for more than 12 hours. I was an emotional wreck when I was let go, and I take responsibility for getting myself into that situation. The Dom and I had multiple detailed discussions before I arrived. He is a skilled and safe bondage enthusiast (I was never in any real danger). However, I was not clear about my ability to be left like that for long periods, knowing that he planned periods when I would be left in bondage. I learned my lesson and approach new situations with more clarity.

So what do you do when you find yourself “unused” during your captivity, no matter to what degree you are bound? Here are some tips:
• Breathe. And breathe normally. Make sure you can breathe and focus on that. Use the time as a meditation where you focus on breathing.
• Getting bored? Well, first, don’t tell the Dom or he might give you something to solve that (like an electro butt plug that goes off at random intervals). Try to think of the story you would write about your experience. Or see what lyrics you can remember to songs you know. I often find myself humming when I’m in such a situation.
• Exercise. Well, OK, you might not be able to move much, but keep the blood flowing. If you have enough freedom, do some isometrics moving your limbs in as much space as you have. If you are fairly well restrained, wiggle your toes and fingers, and gently flex your joints. This will help you stay as comfortable as might be possible and ensure that you don’t have any physical problems.
• And if you really, really want to explore your submissive side, use the time to mentally submit, to emotionally let go. Repeat a mantra like “I belong to Sir, mind, body, and soul” or let your mind explore the boundaries of such a situation. Imagine the captivity was your life, that you were a true bondage slave. See where that takes you. And when Sir comes to use you again, you just might please him on a whole new level and grow even more as a bondage submissive.

I hope this information has helped. In future installments, I’d like to answer specific questions you might have, so add them as comments on this post.

Here’s Part One and Part Two

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9 thoughts on “How to have a Bondage Vacation PART THREE

  1. Thanks for that. I like long-term “storage” and, once my struggles have eventually died down, I use all the same techniques as you do, especially focusing on breathing and mentally composing the story (or blog entry!) I’m going to write about the experience.

    If I’m hooded or blindfolded, I’ll also sometimes consciously try to isolate a particular sense – what I can hear or the tactile sensations – and focus on it exclusively for a while.

    In one recent outdoor scene, I was tied to a tree in the rain for a while. I was warm and fully waterproofed and the sound of the rain became so hypnotic it eventually lulled me to sleep (or at least doze) in a standing position.

    Love the blog!

  2. Another great bit of advice. Yes, the long term bondage scene is a great fantasy, but in reality, it is like being stuck on in a middle seat on a flight to Australia, with nothing to read, no video game, and no movies to watch. You have be ready to be alone with your thoughts, and for most of us, that’s pretty scary.

    Some music or sound can help. I have a CD of Tibetan bowls recorded at Pt Reyes on the California coast that is deeply relaxing. Internet radio station “Drone Zone” (on iTunes/radio/ambient) is pretty trippy. Sometimes they get into sappy new agey stuff, but mostly its kind of dark, industrial, gritty stuff. Good soundtrack for the experience.

  3. Thanks for the great articles. I have learned a lot. My kink is what I call long term endurance bondage, unknown hours chained to the wall or cell bars, 12 hours in a sleepsack, 24 hours in a cage. I am not into pain or high stress positions. The thrill is being restrained and not knowning for how long. My fantasy is 5 days restrained in a cell, not knowing what day it is and knowing I can’t get out. I think I pass your cum and continue test, but I want one opportunity to opt out between 24 and 48 hours. After that I am stuck, period.

    I would like more details of your experiences: length of time, isolation, time awareness, meals, actual bondage positions, etc.

    Thanks, Jim

  4. Quesstion on contracts. boy has played with a couple of Sir’s who did contracts and they both had something like “body is now owned by x to do with as he pleases.” Fiction is full of extreme tales of mutilation and removal of parts, but is that really something to look out for? Does it kill the scene for the Dom if they cannot have that phrase in the contract?

    This is funny, the security word is bentrod – of course by has a total fixation for a curved cock to choke on.

    • Hi boy and thanks for the questions. I think you should always err on the side of caution. You can easily add something to a contract that states that no permanent harm or damage will be done to your body, even if he owns it. I equate it with someone taking very good care of an object they own because they value it. I would be hesitant to sign a contract with a Sir who wouldn’t allow such language.

  5. I am in a situation where I live with two other men. They go off to work everyday and I work from the home office three days each week and go to the office two days for meetings.

    I entered into a contract with them when they moved in with me. One is always top and the other switches between being top to me and exclusively bottom to the other.

    We have been together for nearly a year. Our contract is all but forgotten because we have grown beyond it. I spend most of my “free time” in storage. It’s gotten to be a way of life. I use down time to meditate or solve problems for my job, think of my next creative project or invent new toys for bondage. I also get my head into a space that allows me to set aside my ego so that I can be completely submissive.

    • That sounds like an amazing and caring situation. Would you mind sharing some of the ways you are kept in storage?

  6. I to love bondage and have always wanted to be put im full body cast or head to toe body braces and bondage items I have been looking for someone to explore with maybe you could help me find someone or a few guys that want to do it feel free to place my email out their so I can get what I want

  7. Not too long ago, I got into a month long situation without a contract except that the top said that anytime I was not an object that he could find pleasure in owning that he would throw me out in the street. I didn’t know much about the guy but what I learned in several meetings in neutral location led me to trust him. He wasn’t into contracts except that he stated that he was safe and that he would not harm me, although he would expand what he perceived were my limits. He also said that he was clean and disease free and would stay that way so there would be no scat or blood. He ordered me to get tested for HIV and STDs and bring him the report.

    I spent most of thirty days in storage in a dark room. He put me in a canvas straightjacket that was also wrapped in chains. I could not escape but it was not tight. He also put me into a loose hogtie so that I couldn’t stand and chained my collar to the floor with what I guess was a four foot long chain. He blindfolded me with duct tape and gagged me with simple wrapping of duct tape.

    As far as I knew, he left me alone for three days. I was bored, frightened and witless. I kept listening for sound in or outside of the dungeon. I turned into myself to meditate. I masturbated by rubbing my rubbing my cock against the floor. I tried to call out for attention. The perspiration from my face loosened the tape gag, allowing it to fall off. I has freedom to move so I exercised by rolling or crawling within the confines of my bondage.

    I wet myself several times and soiled myself just hours before he came to release me. (He could watch me on his iPhone via cameras that were aimed at me, as I learned days later.)

    I think there was an implied contract in this case. He is a powerful and very perceptive man who seems know exactly when I am teetering on the edge of what I can stand then pushed me over then stops.

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