Yesterday, I received my Stainless Steel Chastity Cock Cage from Mr S Leather. I’ve tried A LOT of Chastity Devices and this one is my favorite. It’s the most comfortable and least likely to be damaged of all the devices I own. I’m so very happy with it. Especially, with the play date I have coming up in 5 days. I decided to challenge myself to wear the device until then (well… they decided). It’s only 5 days (my record is just under 2 months with no orgasm) but I’m very rusty on Chastity play as a bottom. The challenge this time around isn’t so much as a physical one but a behavioral one. I’ll describe below.
If you haven’t done chastity or are an inexperienced Top with Chastity Games, this may very well help with your D/s connection.
Chastity isn’t for everyone. As you may know, it causes some intense moments of Sexual Frustration. Some do not last more than a few hours because their hormones make them easily agitated. Totally understandable! Been there! You want to take it off, throw it across the room and immediately wank to your favorite Tumblr feed. Chastity just might not be your thing. And, that’s fine.
Then there’s my form of Sexual Frustration. For me, personally, when my Dick is locked up over a period of time, it makes me feel more submissive and eager to please. I can honestly say, for me, the Headspace when playing with full balls is truly more Euphoric than any Orgasm.
“Please, SIR, do not let me cum! I don’t want this to end!!!”
The downside of Chastity is that when I’m locked up without the opportunity to see the SIR for an extended period of time, it becomes less rewarding. I find myself needing interaction with the SIR several times a day. I’m 100% certain that I’ve exhausted SIRs with “I’m so Horny!” Text/IMs. (Thank you. You’ve been a Saints). I really hate when I get like that. I can’t help but to think of myself as “Sheldon” from “Big Bang Theory” knocking on “Penny’s” door.
So, with this 5 day stretch of Chastity, I have to say that starting off, I felt fine. But, within 6 hours I was “knocking on the door”. So, I’m challenging myself not to let myself to stronger and not become “Sheldon”. Keeping myself busy helps. I’m still working out, going to work, walking the dogs and being myself. Sure, I’m horny right now, but, I’m far from hard as I write this even with the Kidney Plug up my ass. More of a mental headspace.
BUT… we can’t ignore that it is most definitely a two way street.
Experienced Tops understand that interaction in the form of Praise, Pics and even Video from the SIR are always required. Tasks from SIR such as Hole Training, Kneeling practice or safe forms of solo bondage can also help the connection between play dates. Cybering and Skype isn’t for everyone but sometimes just seeing SIR’s face live can quell the “Demons” for a while. Just, you know, don’t forget you have another human’s genitalia locked away! (Yes, I know a Top that forgot)
Also, there’s the backup plan to help the boy in moments of desperation when the boy may act on a knee jerk reaction to his frustration and remove the device without permission. If you’re both serious about the role play, then there should be consequences. Punishment can come in several forms. The disappointed SIR could deny contact for a period of time. Also, the boy’s violation remembered in a later Play Date. And… if the boy is seriously on the edge of removing it, there’s always the idea of that promise the boy made to video himself applying Hot & Icy cream to his balls for 10 minutes BEFORE he removes the device. That might change his mind. It doesn’t feel great! (Thanks to a SIR on the west coast for that idea).
“Don’t you fucking cum, boy. I swear, you will regret it Physically and mentally (regret)”.
*Big Smiles from both*
In the end, I feel Chastity is all about MUTUAL fun, respect, caring and a stellar euphoric headspace that neither want to end anytime soon. I feel very lucky to have a few caring SIRs I can report to while in Chastity. They “get me” and understand my particular needs and headspace with this sort of role playing. I doubt I’ll be able to maintain Chastity on a regular basis due to athleticism and work place. I’ll take it when I can… and still be quite willing to share my new Chastity Device with some other boys. 😉
ALSO– If you’re a Top who can relate to this sort of fun, you are verrrryyy welcome to send me a message on RECON! 😉