#TBT: RUFF THOUGHTS: Growing past bad experiences

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Just ran across this older photo from San Francisco around July 2012.   I’m the boy in the Leather Straitjacket.  Another version of the photo in my blog banner above.

It had been a VERY long time since I had done a public scene like this.  I had a bad experience with a inattentive Bondage Top about 12 years ago. That experience sort of damaged my ability to trust others with total control over me in a public setting such as this.  Yet, I still craved this sort of fun years later. Some fantasies just don’t go away.

Time goes by fast and so do opportunities like this.  “Up Your Alley” Fair (Dore Alley) was approaching and I knew this Leather Top that would be attending the event.  He was (is) a close friend that I trust and thought “worst that could happen is that he’d decline”.   Man, it was still difficult to type out the question!  After getting my dorky nervous message… he replied “It would be my pleasure to have this experience with you”.     🙂

That day came and I sort of expected myself to back out but he was great with taking control by making solid plans on when to meet and what to wear.    It all happened so naturally and we had a great time.  This day was very special to me and will always be one of my favorite moments as a Leatherman.  Not just because it was a hot scene with an even hotter friend in full BLUF Gear (WOOF!)… but, because I pushed past the hurt and got to live out a fantasy once again.  

#TBT: My first Chicago Rubbermen party

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I recently found these photos on an old RUBBERZONE gallery that I had forgotten about!    Some of my first rubber.   The Rubber Chaps were from Mr S Leather.   Man, I miss those! 

This was before going out to a Chicago Rubbermen party back in 2007. That’s our first Chicago apartment.  My partner and I had just moved to Chicago.  We were so excited to be a part of a the Leather Community. 

#TBT: with Photographer Adam Kozik

A photo from about 10 years ago with my partner taken by photographer Adam Kozik. I recently did another photoshoot with another local photographer that had me thinking about this series of photos we took. That was a fun day with beautiful Chicago weather on top of roof tops and on train tracks.    Digital photography sure has come a long way since then.  

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#TBT: Visiting San Francisco

Revisiting this #TBT post from 3 years ago because I’m really missing this boy. This long week of play became one of my most memorable experiences in BDSM/Role Playing that I’ve ever had.

 

Today’s Throw Back Thursday (#TBT) photo is from a visit to San Francisco with my boy “Gars821“. We had all this gear at our disposal in a friend’s dungeon and we wanted to do things we really hadn’t done before together which turned out to be a great Puppy Play scene one of the nights during our 8 day stay. There’s a very, very sexy video to go along with this photo. Someday I’ll share it here.

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#TBT

 

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Throwback Thursday to a time long ago when a lot of photos had a time stamp on them.

This was at IML 2004.  I had just gotten a “Joe Rocket” leather racing suit from eBay and wore it a lot over that weekend.  This was the first time that I had ever geared up so much that nobody knew it was me except for our roomie, “DCKidnap”… and the SIR I started flirting with while in the suit.  I actually got off in the suit while humping his leg in the lobby of the Hyatt.

Happy New Year to my Readers!

A (very) quick wish to all my readers for a Happy New Year.

During our 10th “New Year in Gear” Party, my partner (yes! I have one! 22 years!) gave a very moving toast based off the key points below, before we all rang in the New Year together.

“Our tenth NYE Party in Chicago.
Acknowledge a difficult year with a:
Loss of dreams.
Loss of friends.
Loss of family human and furry.
Loss of an inspiration.
To death or to circumstance.

Now we move on to a new year. Learn. Fill it with love. Fill it with brotherhood and sisterhood. Fill it with family. Fill it with hope because without hope all is lost. Look for new beginnings and most of all don’t let the negative win”.

It was very emotional and understandably some of us were in tears myself included. I didn’t know he was going to do this. It’s one of the proudest moments I’ve ever had of my partner.

Granted, you sort of needed to be there to get the full effective of what he said but maybe some of it will inspire you.

 

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RUFF PICS: Mystery Pup

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Another photo from an incredibly disorganized external hard drive. LOL!

I think this is me from a visit to Mr S Leather around the time they had just released the “WOOF!” Muzzle. Or… it’s this very cute Puppy from the south that I met randomly during Folsom Street Fair weekend later flogging him in public at the fair.

Either way… I think it’s a fun candid photo.

RUFF PICS: #MIR20

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This shirt was given to me as a gift by a vendor at MIR 6 years ago. They strategically left it on a rack in their booth for me to find it. When I did, they pounced me from behind.

“Happy Birthday, Ruffy!”

My body has changed quite a bit since 2010 (thanks crossfit). I am so happy it still fits and that I got to show them it this weekend at #MIR20.

One more #TBT: CLAW 2016

IMG_6479Skeeter from Mr S Leather asked me to be a part of a presentation on heavy leather bondage gear during CLAW 2016.    Well, I know better than to say know to “Daddy” and arrived a bit early to see my good friend Mr Kristofer was also going to be a part of the presentation.   In the photo above, you’ll find me in the Heavy Duty Straitjacket resting my head on Mr Kristofer in the Bishop’s Head Harness.    We were both rather exhausted after being bound so long but he took the majority of the abuse from “Daddy’s” boot.

That was such a fun weekend.  I’m very much looking forward to CLAW 2017.

 

(Oh, yeah… there’s some guy in the Leather Sleepsack on the table in the back.  He was so happy and quiet that we started to clean up after the presentation and nearly “forgot” about him)