RUFF THOUGHTS: “Life lessons at Dore Alley Fair” (& a #TBT)


Here’s a Throw Back Thursday photo of myself at Dore Alley Fair 2014.  

This photo reminds me of an important life lesson I “re-learned” that summer.  You see, I had a well known crush on these two guys for a long while. When we talked, my mind sort of fogged over. This happens when I am really into someone including the image/role that they portraying (“Totes Dom Top”) and the hot gear they are wearing. I got nervous and awkward around the 2 hot men flirting with me at the street fair as we drank warm beer…. freezing up several times in mid conversation.    DERP!  

I’ve done this all my life.  I call it the “Peter Parker meets Mary Jane” syndrome.  You remember that scene from Spider-man, right?

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But, the lesson I re-learned… for like… the billionith time that summer?   Sometimes, especially at kinky street fairs, S&M can just stand for… “Stand and Model”. Despite the flirting, they weren’t really into me.  I mean, the fair was closing and I still had not been ordered to lick any boots or drink their piss!  Wake up, Ruff!   

I still look back and laugh at this experience.  My pooooor widdle heart was broken that day!  Awwww… Poor Ruffy.  (Don’t worry, I got over it)  And, yet, this still remains one of my favorite photos.  

….You know, looking back, it really didn’t help that Daddy Richard had me in chastity for 2 weeks prior to that day at Dore Alley Fair….  



A Throwback Thursday photo that goes waaaay back to our days living in Ohio.

I never gave much of a chance even back when it was popular. Making it work properly for you was a pain.  AOL and “Leather Navigator” (yeah, I know! Remember that?) were enough. But, one day I signed onto and this boy that looked like a shorter A&F Matt Damon from the south said hello. We talked for maybe 30 minuntes until I got annoyed with’s poor *everything* and said asked him if he’d like to move things to an AOL chat room. He was so easy going and sweet that within a couple days we were already talking on the phone.

And within a month he was in the back of my Jeep like this.


I remember picking him up from the airport and saying “So, I know we joked about kidnapping you from the airport…”.

“So, let’s do it!” he responded quickly.

I’ll never forget the enthusiasm. I made sure I hit some bumpy rounds on the way back to our house for his first of many fun visits.


Throwback Thursday Pic from roughly 8 years ago when I moved to Chicago and did a photoshoot for Adam Kozik with a friend. Long before I knew the importance of putting your watermark on a photo. I’ve seen this one floating around Tumblr the past few years. It’s still rather flattering to see this shared so often.


Happy New Year!!! (belated)

I’d like to take a moment away from everyone’s endless hunt for Porn to thank everyone for reading my Blog which started as a silly little hobby I started 5+ years ago as a way to show a certain SIR the kind of play I was looking for.  It’s safe to say in that short period of time the world and internet have both changed a great deal.  Not necessarily for the better for a Blogger.   But, you know, despite the changes, it’s still fun. I enjoy expressing my kink interests, sharing what I find sexy and also very much enjoy promoting Kink Events around the world.  Especially the smaller events. Coming from a small town in Ohio, it’s rather moving to see the smaller kink events grow. 

So, you may have noticed that I took a little hiatus for about a month from Blogging.  Back in December, I organized a 2nd trip for 14 friends to go to Hawaii.  This year, we rented a house on Kealakekua Bay on the Big Island. It was crazy beautiful. Lots of adventures and laughing.  In the end, my vacation was nearly 2 weeks long on the island with some of my most beloved and special friends including my boy.  Life slows down while you’re on the islands.  It’s a euphoric atmosphere and very relaxing. I actually forgot to blog.



 A friend snapped this photo of me at Green Sands Beach.

So, after a month of very sporadic blogging, why start back up now?

Because, I’m fucking horny.  Chastity sucks.  (kinda)

During MAL 2014 I reconnected with a SIR I used to play with and have since been making regular visits to his home to serve him and his boyfriend.   These visits woke the sleeping “Giant Bottom” in me.  I’d been topping for years and loving it… yet, that bottom side of me went unattended to. Hell, I’ve even been a Puppy for them. It’d been 17 years since I had been in that sort of headspace.  They are the reason why I am currently “locked up” and suffering from a severe case of blue balls.

These SIRs are certainly “fulfilling” that “bottom side” of me (all puns intended) and I think finally I’ve learned a healthy balance between being Dominant and submissive that I’ve fought to achieve for years. This makes me very happy.

I’ve been “locked up” for 4 days now but haven’t cum in 10 days per SIRS’ orders before a nearly 3 day visit tomorrow (I’d go longer if work permitted).  As you might guess,  when I am horny, I want to blog more.  Being ordered to not to cum means more blog entries.  I’m hoping they keep me locked up more so that I’ll want to blog more, too.  

These new experience have made me think about the future of my Blog.   If I have a New Year’s Resolution to share… it’s that I want to step up the quality of my silly blog hobby by doing more editorial blogging sharing some of the fun I’ve been having as a bottom *AND* a Top. Not in attempt to brag or boast about my experiences but to hopefully inspire as so many others do for me.  In particular, to inspire guys my age that you can still have whatever kind of fun your heart (on) desires after you hit 40.  

Starting with a photo of incredible suspension bondage I was put through in SIRS’ dungeon.


 Happy New Year to all.  May you find balance and adventure in 2015!

ROUND TWO: Dore Alley Fair 2015 Photos

For the past 20 years, I’ve been taking photos at the Fetish Events I’ve been to.   I’m not sure why I haven’t been posting them. When it was a photo of a friend, I made sure they got a copy leaving a great deal collecting virtual dust on external hard drives (much like a certain friendly German many of us know 😉 ).  

Photography has always been a hobby of mine. I’m not saying my work is the quality of Annie Lebowitz (or “Vicki Vale”) but I think it’s time to start sharing starting with photos from Dore Alley 2014 in San Francisco.  Here’s ROUND TWO.


(Round One can be found HERE)

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Dore Alley 2014

For the past 20 years, I’ve been taking photos at the Fetish Events I’ve been to.   I’m not sure why I haven’t been posting them. When it was a photo of a friend, I made sure they got a copy leaving a great deal collecting virtual dust on external hard drives (much like a certain friendly German many of us know 😉 ).  

Photography has always been a hobby of mine. I’m not saying my work is the quality of Annie Lebowitz (or “Vicki Vale”) but I think it’s time to start sharing starting with photos from Dore Alley 2014 in San Francisco.  Here’s ROUND ONE.



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My Throw Back Thursday (#TBT) for today…

Me and my favorite Red Head at a BLUF Gathering during IML many years ago.  I miss that boy.  Truly one of the most submissive bondage boys I’ve ever met.  I liked when he kept just enough hair on top of his head to hold his face still when I slapped him.  The smile on his face was always a mixture of “Ow”, Laughter and “again SIR?”.

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Photos from the REEBOK CrossFit Regional Competition in Chicago

Here’s a few photos I took from the Reebok CrossFit Regionals (competition) a month ago at the Navy Pier in Chicago. Only way I can really describe this event is to compare it to a Kink Event. The energy of all these people with the same interest causes the same sort of camaraderie that I’ve seen every year at IML, Fur-Con and, hell, even at Comic-Con. And, I won’t lie. Yes, walking in, you get that vibe “Am I at a Cult meeting?”. I got the same feeling when when I went to my first Furry Convention. Then, you hear 25 people from one gym cheer on their friend in this huge venue. I couldn’t be help but to be moved by that. A lot of pride and love for their friend. Who wouldn’t appreciate that? This was televised on ESPN, too.

Hey, isn’t that like when we cheer on our friend trying to win a Leather Title? Ha!

Also, I have to point out the obvious. So much WOOF in one place. The majority of the athletes actually mingled with fans after their work outs offering advice and photos.  Super, super nice guys (and gals).  Very supportive.   There was also a market with vendors. Many giving away tons of free stuff.  Who doesn’t like free stuff?   Yes, I will take that Protein Shaker. Thank you, MusclePharm.

Oh, hey, that sounds like a Leather Market!  Yes, I will take that free cum rag. Thank you, Steamworks.

I’ve been into CrossFit less than a year now. It makes me very happy. After watching the age 40-44 division, I can confidently say that I left this event feeling inspired and yet REALISTIC of what I can do. It was very interesting watching guys in their 20’s and 30’s do a particular technique… and comparing to guys in their 40’s.  The guys in their 40’s held their own.

BUT… just because your friend can take a 2 Fists doesn’t mean you can even take 1.

Enjoy the photos. I clearly need to get a better lens for my camera for next year’s event. If I’m not competing. *Dreaming away*

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RUFF THOUGHTS: “Goodbye to the Inked Hottie at my Gym”

Yesterday, I ended my Gym Membership so that I can pursue the perfection of my CrossFit techniques and hopefully compete someday (that’s another topic). I thought it was rather ironic that on my last day at this gym, I’d see several of my Gym Crushes including the Inked Hottie that I’ve talked about in the past. He has the greatest Chicago Theater banner tattoo’d on one of his calf muscles. Living in Chicago, you’ll see A LOT of Chicago Love displayed on human skin. His is really well done. He’s also so damn clean cut when he arrives. Sometimes, in a business suit with a respectable hair cut. Incredible body. blue eyes and a look about him that says… “You wouldn’t know it but I’m a real kinky fuck under this Clean Cut All American boy look”. Just the way I like em’.

I’ve never been good at creepily snapping photos of guys while they’re not looking but here’s a few photos and a video for me to remember him by. Thanks for the Gym-Spiration (and Tattoo inspiration), Handsome.


 The video looks much better with a full screen.

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