(repost) RUFF PICS: Learning from scenes that go bad

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This is a photo of me in a barber chair having a forced haircut scene.  Does anyone remember the old “Shared Web” fetish sites?  Rubbermen, Buzzed Hard and others?   Apparently “Buzzed Hard” got a copy of it and used it on their site.  I just found it on Tumblr.   

Sometimes we have a very bad scene that makes us not want to play for a long while.  That’s the story behind this photo.   My limits were not respected (in many ways) and I had the shit scared out of me by two others. Painfully held against my will.   

I look at this old photo and remember how important communication between players is.  Before the visit, I told one of them “I want to be mind fucked” but what I really meant was “I want to be controlled in a strict SIR/boy experience”.  “Mind Fucked” was the wrong choice of words. Very strong words the top should have questioned but didn’t.  Which led to him not respecting my wishes for the scene to stop even when I said I couldn’t feel my hands.   He also made a fake call to my partner.  “He says to do what I want”.  That broke me.

I didn’t play for 8 months.  We lost a friend from this experience.

So, now, like… 15 years later…  I look back at this photo now as a traumatic lesson that I’ve learned from and put into practice when I bottom OR top. Communication is key to a great D/s experience. I no longer just go into a scene without discussing it first.  

When the boy I played with at MAL told me that he wanted a long weekend of “Strict Protocol” and role playing… I didn’t just say “OK”.  We talked in detail about what that involved so that we were clear. I made him give me examples of the kind of protocol and control he wanted.  Talking in detail about the scenes we both wanted made my 21st MAL one of the most memorable.  

I can’t wait to see that boy again.

#TBT: Visiting SIRS

50836654368__1CC9D66E-140A-436F-B8D4-230387091F5E.JPGOn a recent long weekend visit to my SIRS I was given some alone time while they both went to work. During that alone time, I had the task of conditioning and shining 8 leather hoods and 6 leather jackets. Several of them were heavy Langlitz Leather jackets.  It all had to be done by the time they got home.   I finished sooner than I thought I would I was rather pleased with myself so I sent them this happy photo.  

RUFF PICS: “Hero” Suit & Jockstrap by Regulation

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I’m very happy with my purchase of the “HERO” Suit and Jockstrap with Cod Piece from Regulation. Holds my Holy Trainer in nicely, too.

RUFF PICS: Steel Chastity

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Of all the steel chastity devices I’ve tried, this one is the most comfortable to wear long term. The Steel Chastity Cock Cage has a nice weight to it but it’s not too much. I found that I didn’t need to wear a jockstrap with it either.

I had gone a full month locked up in this device when the photos were taken. As you can see, I was leaking with approval.

RUFF PICS: Day 7 in Chastity

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As a rule, I don’t normally post about my time in Chastity because I know others that are locked up much, much longer than I’m able to.  I will only be in chastity a mere 2 weeks (play date next week) which is not much to brag about when the Pup I had visit me for MIR was locked for a full month.

But, I decided to share this photo because of what else I’m wearing. One of my SIRS gave me his very well worn older Under Armour compression shorts of which I just made a sweaty and pre-cum-y mess after a long work out.   I love how tight they are. Feels like he’s with me when I wear them.  His shorts made me work harder at the gym while also getting hard in chastity.   

RUFF PICS: #MIR20

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This shirt was given to me as a gift by a vendor at MIR many years ago. They strategically left it on a rack in their booth for me to find it. When I did, they pounced me from behind.

“Happy Birthday, Ruffy!”

My body has changed quite a bit since 2010 (thanks crossfit). I am so happy it still fits and that I got to show them it this weekend at #MIR20.

RUFF PICS: Rubber Puppy Hood with blindfold

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Visited my SIRS recently where I was ordered to “Pup Out” for them in my Rubber Puppy Hood with attached Blindfold (customized). It’s incredibly comfortable and definitely helps me get into the Pup Headspace that they desire.

I’d been ordered into chastity two weeks prior to visiting.  The last night of my visit ended with some fun rope bondage, edging and locked back into Steel Chastity with no release.