Lately, I’ve been observing my family and friend’s needs to have kids. The vast majority of my friends do not want kids. But, many of them channel their parental nature by being a MENTOR another person … like owning a boy or human “puppy”. Besides the obvious sexual appeal, I do see how rewarding it can be for someone to “own”. I highly respect the connection a Top has with a bottom. I recognize the nurturing involved. The Spiritual and brotherly love between two (or more) people. It’s not something that’s easily described. It’s a different kind of Love.
Yes, we have mentored many boys who have grown “up” to be extraordinary people that we are proud to call friends. But they lived far, far away in other states. Opportunities were limited (uh, like… NONE!) in Toledo, Ohio to ever consider “owning a boy”.
But now, in Chicago…
So, heres the question. I’m wondering, at this point in my life a gay versatile Leatherman…. am I ready for a boy?
The idea of “owning a boy” is an interesting thought process for somebody who one day… wants skull fuck a boy in a straitjacket in the dog cage in my dungeon…. and the next day wants to be that boy.
And here’s the Question To You, Dear Readers: How does somebody that’s pretty much 50/50 Versatile ….own a boy…. and get their own boy time in? (Keeping in mind the Top/boy is fairly challenged everywhere)
-or- How does somebody that’s 50/50 Versatile have a SIR/Dom…. and be a boy at the same time?
What do you think? I welcome your humble thoughts, suggestions or experiences you’d like to share of when you got you collared your first boy? (Even if you are 100% top now or were back then)
Ruff,
I’m an owned boy but my owner and I are both sexually versatile. For us being owned has nothing to do with top/bottom but everything to do with Dom/sub. If you’d like to chat shoot me an email.
Hi Ruff…That is such a great heart-felt quiery. i do not have the same problem as You, being 100%bottom. However i feel like i see Your pain. i recently met a man much younger than me. Who is HOT and fancies Himself a Master, but He has no experience…so i have been working on training Him, but it is just NOT RIGHT. We are who we are. period. So You are 50/50….damn that means You have to be ready for everything all the time;..i am and always have been 100% bottom. The funny thing is that my Master often says that i will take up the torch and become a Master myself….but i can’t imagine being anything other than being a total bottom…
My first boy could top some. I’m not 50/50, but every now and then I like a good fucking. he was able to do this for me.
The other option, which I have seen, is where a sir will also be a boy to someone else. I was at a party once where a boy told me about his sir’s sir. I talked to the sir about it and basically, it was what you were looking for. I don’t know if you can have your boy be a sir to you. thats a bit too much role reversal for most boys. My boy was never my sir. he was still my boy, just fucking me. he was doing what I wanted him to do.
Ruff, SIR:
i’m an alphaboy who loves to fuck a boy down now and then. my MASTER understands this, and, while i’m 100% bottom for HIM, HE allows me to stick my boydick into some of the boys HE plays with. i know that this isn’t the same situation which YOU describe for YOURSELF, but there are some similarities. Perhaps YOU just take a boy for YOURSELF, but YOU also let some of the DOMS YOU know have THEIR way with YOU. The urge to get totally fucked gets overwhelming sometimes, and i don’t think it’s healthy to deny it. If YOU need COCK in YOUR holes, it doesn’t matter what YOU call YOURSELF — just enjoy the COCK!
Ruff, honestly, don’t over-think it. I would love to be an owned boy, but don’t have the right Sir/Top/Master/Dad at this time. However, I do have two pups and a sub I am enjoying playing with — and frequently tormenting. Rarely, I will give over to my sub side and ask the pups to place me in heavy restraint (I often set up the scene and give them options to add or remove stuff), then let me stew for a few hours, often to meditate or nap. It works for me, for now. I know I need to seek out a suitable top, but that will be later. ‘Course, if he falls into my lap next week, so be it, and the pups and sub-slut know that I will continue my time with them, but it will alter to suit the new addition to my life as will be best for me (and decided upon the theorhetical new top). In the mean time, do what feels right for you, Ruff.
~ Andrew ( and andyboy)