There’s 2 different Kink Related events going on tonight within walking distance of my place. They pressure to make an appearance at both is obvious and was even “expected”. If only to support my friends. And, yes, of course, it’d be fun to gear up and be around others who also enjoy being geared up, hot ‘n’ sweaty in a small bar. But, after thinking about all the traveling and events I attend, I started to feel *REALLY* torn between being at THREE different events of interest tonight.

In the past, I’ve felt compelled to be at each Kink event that I could possibly be at. “The Leather Circuit” as many call it. Found myself running to Detroit, Chicago, Cleveland, Toronto, San Francisco, DC, Lincoln (Nebraska! I KNOW! Ha!) and other cities all throughout the year where I’d see the same people running in the same circuit. In the past few years, I noticed something… people were getting burnt out at these events. Many just lived and breathed their “gig” to a point that it made them miserable, somewhat bitter and generally not fun to be around. Some stopped going all together. Even when it’s local events. I do not want to become like that.

I caught up with many of them on Facebook & YIM. They all kept in the Scene in some way. They were still playing. Still dirty Mofo’s. They all had one thing in common. Outside of the planning an event, volunteering for charities & other events they were involved in, they all developed hobbies and a life outside of the Scene.

I don’t want to say I got burnt out, (far from it, look at my 2010 event schedule) but, ya know, there is more to life than living and breathing one particular thing. I thank my buddy, Jack, for telling me earlier tonight “Tell em’ Jack said it was okay for you to go the Kylie Minogue CD release party and not the local Kink Events”. LOL! And, because Jack is one of the few people I call “SIR” and mean it, my friends will not see me tonight.

Sooooo… tonight, YUP! Instead of putting on that really sexy new Rubber Uniform I bought from Mr. S Leather at IML, I *AM* going to that Kylie Minogue “Aphrodite” album release party.

But, I am gonna wear a Rubber Jock underneath my clothes. Kylie would approve!

UPDATE: I made the right decision. Tonight… was amazing. Can’t stop smiling.