Just found out about a friend that passed away about a year ago. A Mentor from Denver we met on MSN chat like… 13 yrs ago… who held our hands (pulling them really) as we stepped out of that conservative Ohio “closet” and went to our first Gay Event in San Francisco. 

I remember him saying “You guys can hold hands out on the streets here” which made me feel so liberated and start to feel comfortable in my own skin. He took us to “The Loading Dock” in San Francisco and also to Folsom Street Fair where I wore incredibly loose leather chaps, white jock strap and a harness… with a colorful sunburn as a souvenir.  

It took years of events like this to finally feel like I didn’t need to hide like I did back in Toledo, Ohio.

He was one of those people that showed me how important it is to be supportive, understanding and patient to those just coming out. It is NOT easy for everyone even with progress in society. 

Bob and I hadn’t talked in years but I did get a chance to thank him at one point a while back.  For that, I’m beyond grateful and hope anyone who reads this takes the time, today, to thank those who have been there for them the same way.  

Love you, Bob….

-Ruff