How Big is that Ego in the Window?

By Olivier Pratt 

…. next time you see someone behaving from a place of ego, call them on it. Explain to them how their actions and behavior reflects upon all of us. Let’s see if we can return to a day, where it really was special to be a Leatherman and not just an exercise in ego inflation and personal glorification…..
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“RUFF THOUGHTS”


This is a fantastic article.  It’s sad to hear that the author had to go what he did to find his place in the community.  Talk about a negative helping hand.

All too often we see “THAT GUY” at events, in clubs or groups.   One individual that is always finding his/her way onto stage repeatedly, always the MC, reminding people of the porn they’ve been in or ALL the things they have done for the community.  “Welcome to my Little Swaray” is something heard often.   Instead of showboating, they should be finding the new people in the crowd and making them feel welcome.   

We’ve all been there. We all know how overwhelmingly scary at your first event.  It’s a second coming out.   We all need a Mentor or two to help hold our hands when we start this journey of self discovery.   I’m still very close friends with my original “De-Mentor” (as I call affectionately call him) here in Chicago.  Don’t know where I’d be without him!   

(Probably Toledo Ohio…)


Personally, I feel I’ve been “THAT GUY”.  It can be intoxicating. And obnoxious. It’s easy to loose track of who you are (and loose friendships) in that spotlight.   These days, the honest truth is… I reject that sort of attention.  Turning down many opportunities unless my heart is into it and for the benefit of others.  It’s all about Quality Friendships (and playtime) these days.


If anyone slaps your hand as you’re getting into the Kink Scene,  let me know.  I will kick their ass.  (Or viciously rearrange all their iPod playlists with Kylie).