Pledge to keep YOUR local Leather Bars alive in 2012

BLUF 12×12 Pledge: 


Keep the leather scene alive – sign up for the BLUF 12×12 pledge.   


Go to 12 Leather Bars in Gear in 2012

Editor’s note: We’re HUGE fanatics about getting people out of the house and in to their gear. There’s a lot of movement out there to re-claim our kinky gear spaces and the men from BLUF (Breeches and Leather Uniform Fanclub) are at the very forefront of that movement. Check out this post from the BLUF webmaster Nigel Whitfield. More info on the BLUF website.

There’s even a FACEBOOK PAGE.

One of the most important things that BLUF does every year is to organise meetings around the world; these are arranged by volunteers, and take place in the UK, Germany, Belgium, The Netherlands, Italy, the United States, and many other countries.

At many of these, attendance is excellent – at The Backstreet in London, for example, we’ll regularly see the bar filled almost to capacity, and the same is true at many other events, including of course those organised by other groups around the world, like Folsom Europe.

One of the things that many people often say is that they wish the bars were so busy more often; there are plenty of people that, for instance, we’ll only see at The Backstreet the four or five times a year that there’s a BLUF party.

A decade ago, that wasn’t the case – there would be a good turnout most weekends, and plenty of people making the effort to get out in their gear. Now, of course, plenty of people stay at home, thanks to smoking bans, the cost of drinking in bars, and the ease of making contact online. Just one more click, it sometimes feels, and we’ll find Mr Right, or Mr Right Now.

Today, lots of people say that they’d make the effort, but they don’t want to be the only ones in a bar in full leather; and, to an extent, that’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more of us who stay home because we don’t think there’ll be many other people in gear, the worse the bar scene will become. Everyone ends up saving themselves for ‘special events,’ whether it’s a BLUF party, one of Recon’s Full Fetish events, or something else.

We need people, as MenInGear says, to get geared up and go out.
Support your bars in 2012

In the current economic climate, everyone’s having a tough time, and that of includes many gay bars; some of the most well known, like the Eagle Tavern in San Francisco, have closed, while others have relaxed their dress codes to try and get more people through the door.

Great though big parties can be, there aren’t many bars that can survive on just a few party nights a year, especially when commercial promoters take their cut. They need our support to stay open – otherwise we’ll come out of the recession, to a chorus of people asking “Where are all the leather bars?”

It’s not just the bars that are having a bad time too, of course. Many of us are feeling the pinch; but even so, at this time of year, when many people are thinking about resolutions for the New Year, I’d like to ask people to make a simple pledge, summed up in the graphic below.

We’ve called it the 12×12 pledge, and it’s simple. We don’t want you to prop up the bar every night. Or to make a point of going out every weekend. But we would like to you step away from the PC, and get out in your gear.

We want as many leather and fetish guys as possible to try to make sure that in 2012, they visit their local leather bars, at least twelve times. If enough of us do, perhaps we can make a difference, and make sure that the leather bars we do have aren’t just places for special events from time to time, but somewhere we can meet like minded people, whenever we do feel like going out.

So, please, if you think you can make this one of your resolutions, please add a comment below, and feel free to share this post with other people around the world and around the net.

Nigel Whitfield,
BLUF webmaster
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Many thanks to BLUF and Leatherati for their efforts.   Please share this article/links with your friends.  Retweet it, Share it on your facebook page, etc.    ALSO– feel free to use the Banner on YOUR website/blog/Tumblr.  Help get the word out.   


-Ruff

How Big is that Ego in the Window?

Leatherati

How Big is that Ego in the Window?

By Olivier Pratt 

…. next time you see someone behaving from a place of ego, call them on it. Explain to them how their actions and behavior reflects upon all of us. Let’s see if we can return to a day, where it really was special to be a Leatherman and not just an exercise in ego inflation and personal glorification…..
READ THE FULL ARTICLE HERE 

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“RUFF THOUGHTS”


This is a fantastic article.  It’s sad to hear that the author had to go what he did to find his place in the community.  Talk about a negative helping hand.

All too often we see “THAT GUY” at events, in clubs or groups.   One individual that is always finding his/her way onto stage repeatedly, always the MC, reminding people of the porn they’ve been in or ALL the things they have done for the community.  “Welcome to my Little Swaray” is something heard often.   Instead of showboating, they should be finding the new people in the crowd and making them feel welcome.   

We’ve all been there. We all know how overwhelmingly scary at your first event.  It’s a second coming out.   We all need a Mentor or two to help hold our hands when we start this journey of self discovery.   I’m still very close friends with my original “De-Mentor” (as I call affectionately call him) here in Chicago.  Don’t know where I’d be without him!   

(Probably Toledo Ohio…)


Personally, I feel I’ve been “THAT GUY”.  It can be intoxicating. And obnoxious. It’s easy to loose track of who you are (and loose friendships) in that spotlight.   These days, the honest truth is… I reject that sort of attention.  Turning down many opportunities unless my heart is into it and for the benefit of others.  It’s all about Quality Friendships (and playtime) these days.


If anyone slaps your hand as you’re getting into the Kink Scene,  let me know.  I will kick their ass.  (Or viciously rearrange all their iPod playlists with Kylie).

LEATHERATI: Polyamory: Orientation or Lifestyle?

Polyamory: Orientation or Lifestyle?

Here’s an interesting read from Micah Schneider on Fearless Press on the topic of Polyamory.

Is Polyamory an Orientation or a Lifestyle Choice?

By Micah Schneider
In the last month, I’ve seen this question come up in more than one place. Is polyamory something that you do, or is it something that you are? Are some people poly the same way some people are homosexual or straight, submissive or dominant or a greedy bisexual switch?
My answer is simple. Yes.
The longer answer is not so simple.
Read the entire post after the jump

boy’s Bill of Rights

This has been floating around the internet a while now.  Worth a quick read. To everyone.

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boy’s Bill of Rights
1. Every boy has the right to have his body, intellect, and emotions protected by his Dom.

2. Every boy has the right to choose the man whom he serves and to discontinue that service and take his leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.

3. Every boy has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in his submission.

4. Every boy has the right to protected sex if he so wishes.

5. Every boy has the right to privacy if he so wishes. No boy can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without his expressed desire to be so.

6. Every boy has the right to defend himself from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.

7. Every boy has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.

8. Every boy has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other subs and Doms without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.

9. Every boy has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.

10. Every boy has the right to protect his own possessions and finances against intercession, theft, and non-consensual acquisition.

James Bondage Eulogy by Richard Hunter

Great feeling of sadness as I read here that James Bond had passed away. Probably anyone reading MetalBond’s or Bob Wingate’s blog has at one time seen some of his pictures of boys tied up….even if you didn’t know they were taken by James. His photographs were all over the Internet and certainly in Bound and Gagged magazine.

He was a serious Bondage enthusiast and a nice guy as well. I met him way back in 1984 when I lived in NYC. He tied me up out on Fire Island over a 4th of July holiday weekend. He LOVED tying up guys and watching them struggle. Gas Masks, Wet Suits, Dry Suits, Diving Helmets and Rope were his favorite pieces of gear to use.

I can only guess how many boys he probably tied up in all these years, but I’m sure it was in the 1000’s.

For those of you who might still have the Mr. S original 2 part catalog from years back.. the back cover photo is of me hanging upside down. That was Jim Boyd’s (James Bond) work on me out at Fire island way back in 1984.

He’ll be missed in the scene for sure. I guess still no word on what was the cause of his death.

We can all raise a ‘Toast’ to James tonight for all the joy he brought to many many guys in this scene.

This memoriam taken from the “Bound and Gagged Blog today…

http://www.bobwingate.com/bob_wingates_blog/blog_index.html

In Memoriam, James Bond
The James Bond we’re talking about is not the James Bond made famous by Sean Connery and others, but the great bondage photographer. I just learned of his death from my friend Metalbond, who himself has not heard many of the details yet, but will be putting up his own post about Jim on his excellent and always exciting blog site.

I hadn’t been in touch with Jim for a number of years, but without his great photo contributions, Bound & Gagged would have been a much less visually exciting magazine. He and I met soon after I started the New York Bondage Club in 1984. For Jim, who was as bondage-obsessed as I was, the club was a life saver, and truly brought him into his own. No one who was ever tied up by him, or ever saw his photos, will deny that.

Jim had at least three strong passions that I know about: for bondage, for diving and diving gear, and for trains. Apparently he was something of an eminence when it came to railroad trains, and published a number of books on the subject under his real name.

In the early years of the magazine, Jim and I got together every other month or so, for us to fool around and him to tie me up and photograph me for the little editorial page pic of the editor bound & gagged. Most of those pics, from that pre-digital age, have yet to be scanned, but here’s a selection of a bunch of Jim’s black and white photos published in the magazine, with more to come in the next few days.

Rest in peace, Jim.