Read this in a profile earlier today. For those into Role Playing with BDSM, this says a lot regarding where you can go with your playtime.
“When you are able to trust me fully to take control and lead you, I am able to do my work and make you proud of yourself, understanding of your place in the world, and fully alive. I know how to take a boy/sub who willingly submits to me to the highest levels of pleasure as you finally feel complete in my presence and under my direction.”
Calvin Harris – Bounce feat. Kelis.
I think we all can relate to the lyrics of this song for one reason or another.
(Posted with nobody in particular in mind. So, don’t be catty, Bitches!)
Off to San Francisco in the morning to help out at Mr S Leather again during the city’s LEATHER WEEK. Just thinking about the memories I have of SF and the street fairs brings a big smile to my face. I’m lucky to have an extended family out there that cares for me as much as I do them. The fairs are fun and all… but I go to see these crazy, funny and twisted friends of mine…. “Poopie”, “Stinky Puppy”, “Chicken Bucket” and “Kitty”. Respectably. Of course. (Maybe)
Feel free to stop by and say hello. Mr S is having a In Store Party (aka FREE BEER) on Saturday. Here’s the LINK to the party. See ya around!
Great article for those Traveling with Kinky Gear”. Thanks to Leatherati!
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Uncertainly about the new regulations and procedures for air travel have most of us a little concerned. Here’s a reposting of an excellent article from Midori which originally appeared on Carnal Nation. Are you preparing for a sexy getaway with your sweetie? Maybe you’re heading off to AVN, or some kinky event like Dark Odyssey or the Fetish Fair Fleamarket, and hoping for some action. Airline luggage limits, increasing fees and regulations set by the Transportation Security Administration (TSA), and other government security agencies can make packing a huge headache. Here’s some practical insider info on how to pack smartly while avoiding a lengthy non-consensual interrogation scene with Homeland Security. I figure, with years of frequent travel and my taste in toys and sexy, kinky destination events, I have a bit of experience and research to draw from.
Know the Rules and Laws…
I’d like to point a somewhat recent blog entry of Porn Actor Spencer Reed’s Blog. He was involved in a Domestic Violence incident and shared his story. Typically, whenever I read a Porn Actor’s blog, it’s all about him and the sex he’s had. Reading this entry of Reed’s was rather different than what’s considered the norm of a Porn Actor.
I’m very impressed Spencer shared his experience. Especially as one of the bigger names in Porn out there right now. Rather risky in a way for his career.
Just goes to show you how people build up their own idea of who you and what you’re like in their minds… as well as the image a person portrays for people around him/her (including non-Porn “Actors”) to believe. Then, one day, you see that there’s actually a person of substance behind the persona given or even portrayed. Myself included. (If you only knew what a Huge Dork I am in person. Some of you do.)
I come from a family that’s seen Domestic Violence and Incest (I was 10). We have a family member that restarted her life, with child, from scratch thanks to family and a Domestic Violence recovery group into a very successful career and beautiful family. She’s actually one of my Heros.
I wish Spencer the best as well as quick physical and emotional healing. Major Kudos to him for blogging about his experience in a respectable manner rather than keeping quiet about it.
UK: 08457 90 90 90 – The Samaritans
ROI: 1850 60 90 90 – The Samaritans
Australia: 13 11 14 – Lifeline (24 hour Crisis Hotline)
In the time of your life, live-so that in that good time there shall be no ugliness or death for yourself or for any life your life touches. Seek goodness everywhere, and when it is found, bring it out of it’s hiding-place and let it be free and unashamed. Place in matter and in flesh the least of the values, for these are the things that hold death and must pass away. Discover in all things that which shines and is beyond corruption.
Encourage virtue in whatever heart it may have been driven into secrecy and sorrow by the shame and terror of the world. Ignore the obvious, for it is unworthy of the clear eye and the kindly heart. Be an inferiour of no one, nor of any man be the superiour. Remember that every man is a variation of yourself. No man’s guilt is not yours, nor is any man’s innocence a thing apart. Despise evil and ungodliness, but not men of ungodliness or evil. These understand. Have no shame in being kindly and gentle, but if the time comes in the time of your life to kill, kill and have no regret. In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the mistery and sorrow of the world, but shall smile to the infinite delight and mystery of it.
Awwww, this made my Day!
“I just wanted to say that it was nice to run into you at Madonnarama. I know we’re not close, but I do feel like you contribute a lot to the community (and to my own well being) with your awesome blog and contributions. I am re-thinking some of my own philosophies on kink and community. Not sure how to express them yet, but I wanted to say thanks for the positive and fun work you do!”
If you have an Upcoming Kink Related Event you’d some help getting the word out on via Blog Entry and Sidebar Advertisement, please email me and I’ll throw it on here.
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For too fucking long male domestic violence victims (gay and straight) have had a huge stigma against them. The man is supposed to be all butch, and able to defend himself, and wouldn’t stand for it. That is the difference of domestic violence – it isn’t a random stranger you want to hit back at. This is being done to you by someone you love and you thought loved you.
So if you are in a violent relationship please protect yourself and do what you need to get out of there! Pick up the phone and call a local support organisation, suicide line, gay switchboard / organisation – whoever it is try to take that first step! Get yourself some support – even if its just someone at the end of a phone!!
Remember when you were a kid and you thought you were the only gay in your school, town, city, country or the world? You know what you weren’t – just as you aren’t the only one having the crap beaten out of you by someone you love. There is help!
And if you suspect someone is in an abusive relationship then please reach out – however you can send that lifeline! You may well save someone’s life!!
UK: 0300 330 0630 – London Lesbian & Gay Switchboard
UK: 08457 90 90 90 – The Samaritans
ROI: 1850 60 90 90 – The Samaritans
Australia: 13 11 14 – Lifeline (24 hour Crisis Hotline)
USA: 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) – National Domestic Violence Hotline
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This is pretty damn wild. A “Megamix” of songs from a performance in this video. Deadmau5 is coming to Chicago in October at the Aragon. I need to find gather up my hardcore dance friends and plan an outing to see the Mouse.
October 22nd and 23rd TICKETS.
Here’s a Photo I took a while ago of two boys I had in Straitjackets and matching Blue Electro Bands. The ErosTek 2 electro box was set on Sound Activation. So, each time one of them made noise (Or if I made the noise), somebody got shocked.
Their conversation went something like this:
“Uggghhh!”
“Owwwww! SHUT UP-OWWWWW!!”
“Aaaaarrggh! YOU SHUT THE- Aaaaahhhh!!!”
“AAAARRGH!!!!”
“AAAAARGH!!!!”
-SIR
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I want to feel completely helpless and reliant on you SIR and to show you the respect you deserve.
A beautiful sexy photo of a SIR and boy outside of RoB.
I *LOVE* photos like this where the connection between the Dom/sub is public and intense. It’s actually very, very romantic. This photo gets filed under my own personal FAVORITES.
This is one of my favorite bondage positions to be in… or have a boy in. Arms pulled up, it makes the boy’s chest pronounced, skin tight and nipples totally vulnerable. There’s clearly other things that can be done with Ball Play, etc. A lot of strain on the thighs, too. Not an easy position to be in for a long time.
This is what happens when you apply a Fake Tattoo at 2am during Chicago Pride… and the stand (and drinking) in the Sun most of the day watching the Pride Parade. Oops!
I recently decided it was time to resign from the role of MIR Vendor Coordinator…
Truth be told, I’ve been volunteering for various events and organizations for TWENTY YEARS. Everything from Kink Events to Animal Shelters to Diabetes/HIV/AIDS/Cancer fundraisers. When I moved to Chicago, I quickly started looking for more volunteer work which was easily found in Chicago.
I let a few friends know that I was looking for something MORE to do. Something. Not sure what, but something. I wanted a Niche. Not too long afterwards, I was offered the position of MIR Vendor Organizer by a New Friend shortly afer the event went under new ownership.
It can easily be said MIR and those involved with the event have had a great influence over me and the Kinkster I am today in a very positive and even mentoring manner. MIR is a part of me. I love the event, I really do, but it wasn’t what I was really looking for… but I mainly did it because at the time my New Friend I was bonding with at a NIN concert seemed to really need and want me involved. I have a hard time saying NO to friends and I just simply wanted to see him happy. I also believed MIR could be much bigger and better than ever.
You know, I love hosting a good party. I love being involved, seeing everyone happy and smiling (that’s me in a nutshell), but man… you get exhausted doing these events. Eventually, it catches up with you. For example, IML 2010… I was so exhausted from doing demos open to close in the Leather Market that I didn’t want to go to the GearBlast party. Totally fried, I just wanted to go to bed. But, my silly friends insisted I just go casual and dressed me up like this….
Makes a statement, doesn’t it? I’ll do anything for a laugh. And Sandals (I was sooo over wearing boots at the time). At least I had good Scotch in the glass.
I’ve been to 11 MIRs, watching it grow and grow into what it is today. It’s only going to get bigger and better each year. While I’ve organized many large events and parties, I recognize that I not a trained professional events manager and feel I’ve given all I could. Hitting a wall, I realized my limits. It was an honor to be asked to help it transform from what it was 3 yrs ago to what it is today…. and absolutely heart breaking (I’m still hurting) to tell the guys after volunteering for events the last 20 years it was time to take the advice of my “Daddy” and my “De-Mentor” (and other friends):
See, I’ve got this Massage License I rarely use. And this dream to become a Personal Trainer. It’s a good combination. This is my new focus. Gotta make this happen! I also need to get back to going to events as a participant. Still doing demos and helping where needed …. and… hey, who knows? Maybe even get laid at events? LOL! What a brilliant idea!
The support I’ve gotten from the group, associates and friends outside of the group has been overwhelmingly positive. While I already have offers from other events/organizations to consider I’ve let the MIR guys know that I’m very interested in helping out in a lesser involved manner as ease the transition of the Vendor Market Organizer to the new person. Whatever I can do to help. I hope they take me up on the offer.
So, I wish all those volunteers and other associates of MIR a very positive GO GET EM’! I have the utmost faith and confidence that the staff of the 15th Anniversary of Mr. International Rubber will make it an overwhelming success.
Thanks, guys. You’re amazing!
– Ruff
* You can contact the new MIR Vendor Organizer, “KinkRubber”, via email HERE.
One of my favorite songs, easily in my top 20. In particular, I like the lyric:
Both Kaskade and Deadmau5 have incredibly beautiful music. Highly recommended for long sessions in bondage. And Fucking.
