Me: I'm tired. I'm gonna go home.
*DJ starts playing Kylie*
Me: pic.twitter.com/QX0sjeabSq— Anthony Balderrama (@anthelonious) July 5, 2017
Tag Archives: Ruff Thoughts
RIP Chuck Renslow
The staff and board of the Leather Archives & Museum are saddened to hear of Chuck Renslow’s passing. As LA&M’s co-founder, Chuck gave deeply and worked with great passion for over 26 years to save the names and faces of Leather, kink, BDSM and fetish people, communities, and history, and he fought to ensure that Leatherfolk were the ones who would “tell” their own stories so that they might better understand and bring enhanced visibility to “Leather history.” As co-founder, longtime President and, most recently, Chairman of the Board, Chuck has left his mark throughout our institution and touched each of us very deeply. He will be missed.
During this time of grieving and celebrating of Chuck’s life and contributions, LA&M will continue to hold its open museum hours. Beginning Saturday July 1st we will establish a temporary display of rare and remarkable items from Chuck’s private collection for visitors to view In the Etienne Auditorium.
For the next month, we will also have a letter writing station available during museum hours where folks can write letters to Chuck that we will then bundle and give to the Renslow Family. Those who cannot visit LA&M are welcome to write a letter or send a postcard to Chuck and mail it to us via the postal service at 6418 N. Greenview Ave., Chicago, IL 60626 USA. Letters via post only, please.
For those who wish to hold memorial or celebration services, we have created a page containing high resolution images of Chuck and a brief biography that is courtesy of IML, Inc. and with special thanks to Owen Keehnen. You can locate these resources here http://www.leatherarchives.org/renslow.html
In Leather,
LA&M’s Staff and Board of Directors
GOOD ARTICLE: “Why people with depression should lift weights”
“If you struggle with depression, your best therapy may be to hit the gym and pump some iron.
While the physical benefits of strength training are widely known, there are plenty of psychological benefits to reap too. A Harvard Medical School study found that that weight lifting could help alleviate the symptoms of clinical depression.
The tried and true Harvard study from the 1990s found that the heavier the weight a person used, the more depression improved. A similar study from Duke University found that depressed participants who weight trained for four months, four times per week for 40 minutes overcame their depression without medication.
The Duke researchers found that for every 50 minutes of exercise each week, the rate of depression decreased by half.”
Don’t fuck with the Leather Community…
READ THE COMMENTS! They’re amazing. — “Keep Your Kink Out Of My Pride Parade” https://t.co/fnSisNZZPf
— Ruff’s Stuff Blog (@RuffsStuffBlog) June 28, 2017
LOL!: That time when I got mistagged as a local Drag Queen
FOR SALE: Langlitz Leather Jackets and Pants
RUFF Tweets
“OK, sure, I could be into that… as long as I still get to fuck you”- Inexperienced BDSM Top/”Master”.
Me: pic.twitter.com/FRb2P7ATjH
— Ruff’s Stuff Blog (@RuffsStuffBlog) June 27, 2017
RUFF THOUGHTS: Really digging this haircut…
Wish List!!
The next time I’m in London I will be picking up a few sets of these cards from Regulation.
Great quote
RUFF PICS: Text with my SIR
REBLOG: “Sometimes I Lie About My Depression Because the Truth Sounds Silly”
REBLOG: I’m reposting this blog entry today in tribute to one of my personal heros who died a year ago today. Please, take a moment to read this.
Take a moment to read this Gay Man’s description of the inner struggle many living with Depression must go through on a daily basis. Even the most energetic and funny person with a positive outlook on life can be someone who is fighting with inner demons. You just don’t see it. I commend this man’s bravery for putting his story (and face) out there for others to learn from.
Someday, I may share my own story but right now I think this man needs the recognition. I also leave you with a favorite quote from a famous comedian to think about.
“It’s difficult to be strong for others when when you’re having a hard time being strong for yourself”- Robin Williams
I’m constantly reminded of my own depression.
OK, maybe that sounds too dramatic, naïve, self-absorbed, or annoying. Maybe it sounds downright depressing.
Perhaps a better way to put it would be to say: I’m constantly, randomly reminded of my own depression. It doesn’t really matter where I am. I could be sitting in a room full of people I just met, walking home after work, or watching Beyonce music videos on YouTube (it’s a tragedy, I know). I could even be laughing when I feel it. But I always know when it’s there.
I’m not sure how to describe depression exactly. Does it make you feel sad? Yes. Down? Yes. But I think there is more to it than that…
WISH LIST: Ankle Cuffs
Looking for these simple Ankle Cuffs. Anyone know where to get them?
UPDATED: A reader found these for me. Thank you!
They are the Chicago Model 1550 LI Irish 8 Leg Irons.
RUFF THOUGHTS: How chastity affects your mentality
I posted this poll on Twitter a while ago. The results are worth sharing. Feel free to comment on how chastity makes you feel.
(Of course, I had to add a little humor to it)
Q 4 the Chastity Lovers:
"The longer I'm in Chastity… the more I become… #GaySex #GayChastity #GayBondage
— Ruff's Stuff Blog (@RuffsStuffBlog) January 2, 2017
WISH LIST: Rubber Uniform from Regulation
Rubber Uniform from Regulation
Ruff Thoughts: Discovering bondage
Current Favorite Music
READ THIS: “The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness”
Usually, I copy and paste the first few paragraphs of any article I find important for sharing but this is one that warrants your full attention beyond the first few paragraphs (which are a bit misleading from the title.
Please… grab a cup of coffee or tea and give this a good ready. Share the link with friends. This is a good read that helps us understand friends in the gay community.
“Say Goodbye to being a Mean Gay… it’s time to start cheering each other on”
“If your friends don’t shine, you don’t shine, and the brighter their light shines, the more that glow will reflect upon you.”
“In early 2016 I was at a house party, surrounded by clusters of friends, all of them chatting and laughing. As I moved from group to group, it became clear that each conversation was about someone else at the party, or people who hadn’t arrived yet – gossiping that the happy couple were secretly on the rocks, speculating that so-and-so with the new gym body must be on something, and rolling eyes in dismissal of someone’s promotion, (“It’s not like he’s at a good company”).
I felt on edge the whole night, uncomfortable and unhappy around people I had thought of as friends. When someone bailed early and offered to share an Uber home I jumped at their offer. “You just know they’re talking about us now,” remarked my travel companion as the car door closed, and in that moment I knew two things. He was right, and I needed to make a change…”
Read the full Article HERE at Attitude Magazine
Good Quote
Good Quote…
Love this woman….
help our queer & immigrant friends. send me your donation receipts for the @aclu & I will match up to $100K https://t.co/P9zVRH0WH0 #RESIST
— sia (@Sia) January 28, 2017
Happy New Year to my Readers!
A (very) quick wish to all my readers for a Happy New Year.
During our 10th “New Year in Gear” Party, my partner (yes! I have one! 22 years!) gave a very moving toast based off the key points below, before we all rang in the New Year together.
“Our tenth NYE Party in Chicago.
Acknowledge a difficult year with a:
Loss of dreams.
Loss of friends.
Loss of family human and furry.
Loss of an inspiration.
To death or to circumstance.
Now we move on to a new year. Learn. Fill it with love. Fill it with brotherhood and sisterhood. Fill it with family. Fill it with hope because without hope all is lost. Look for new beginnings and most of all don’t let the negative win”.
It was very emotional and understandably some of us were in tears myself included. I didn’t know he was going to do this. It’s one of the proudest moments I’ve ever had of my partner.
Granted, you sort of needed to be there to get the full effective of what he said but maybe some of it will inspire you.
GEAR FOR SALE
Mr Kristofer interviewed by RECON
Check out this great interview of my very dear friend Mr Kristofer by RECON News. I affectionately call him “SIRboy”. Click on the photo to get an idea why. Such a great guy.