When Nick Jonas walked on stage at the VMAs wearing head to toe leather… ugh… my pants spontaneously combusted. pic.twitter.com/w1eNp10UPa
— Ruff's Stuff Blog (@RuffsStuffBlog) August 31, 2015
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RUFF THOUGHTS: BDSM Personality Test
It took a few minutes to fill out, but the results of my BDSM Personality Test are rather interesting. I may actually fill it out a second time as I find myself leaning more towards being a bottom these days. The survey confirmed that. But, I think it could be improved for versatile folks.
Here’s what I was “scored” at. Not sure I agree with it. LOL!
My current “Gym Jam”
I’m lost, don’t wanna be found
I’m up and not gonna be down
Outside looking in on myself
Just me, I couldn’t be anyone else
Is it bad when you’re feeling this good?
Are we all misunderstood?
It’s fine, going out of my mind
Going out of my mind, going out of my mind
I could watch this video all day….
**GEAR FOR SALE**
I recently found out something ground breaking…
I’m no longer a Size Large.
So, my loss is your gain on these two Latex items as well as Leather Chastity Shorts and RARE Thick Rubber Puppy Hood that is discontinued on the Mr S Leather website. They are all listed here on eBay.
I’m particularly heartbroken after trying on the Deluxe Invincible Rubber Latex Catsuit. I’ve been collecting Rubber and Latex for 21 years and this is by far the most impressive Latex Catsuit I’ve ever seen. Taking your own measurements can be a disaster. This disaster is your gain. Especially, if you live in the USA because you can avoid the ridiculous Shipping and Customs fee that come with ordering from overseas.
I’m actually going to set up an appointment with Invincible Rubber while I am there for Fetish Week London to have them measurement for the same damn suit. I like it that much.
FEATURES
– Cod piece with blue stripe
– Shoulder Entry
– Nipple Access by safe zippers
– Wrist Zippers to keep suit in place.
– Ankle Zippers to keep suit in place.
– Rear Access
– 0.65mm gauged latex
– Custom suit with measurements meeting the size LARGE category.
Also, for sale on EBAY is a **BRAND NEW** Mr S Leather Skinhead Polo. Worn once for an hour only to realize it’s too small for me.
And, here is the discontinued Mr S Leather THICK Rubber Puppy Hood that is also for sale on eBay. Made to last with posable ears and a removable muzzle. I know there’s quite a few Pups and Handlers out there that were looking for one of these. Somewhat of a collector’s item?
Lastly, here are Mr S Leather Locking Chastity Shorts also available on eBay. They have been broken in so the leather is very, very soft and yet… TOUGH. These shorts can take the hard paddling your locked up boy deserves.
If you have any questions about the items, feel free to send me a message through ebay.
Thanks!
My current Gym Jam
ORDERED!!!
Or at least, I’m told the Mercenary Pants and Vest are waiting for my SIRS’ dungeon in Atlanta. Tried them on at IML and, WOOF, they’re so fucking hot!
FOR SALE: Rare Spanking/Fisting/Bondage Bench
SOLD!
Thank you!
Hard to believe but this is one of those toys that’s been in my collection that I rarely ever used because I’m not really into Fisting or Spanking. So, it’s been in our closet for some time now. I think we only bring it out for our New Year’s Eve party. So, it’s time to find it a new home.
From what I understand, this item is no longer in production making it a somewhat rare and valuable item to those familiar with the legendary “BDG Sales”.
RUFF THOUGHTS: Attending the “Spartan Race”
Just signed up to do the Chicago Spartan Race “Super”. I have to admit, this photo helped me make the commitment for the 8 mile run with 20+ obstacles. Very happy that I have some friends joining me. And, yeah, the photo above helped me with this decision.
Kinky Tweets
“Endless Snark isn’t a Talent. It’s just exhausting” (for others to suffer through) –
Seductive
One of my all time favorite videos. Imagine being the bound boy he’s standing over…
“Thundercats” Bondage
I remember this scene from “THUNDERCATS” being one of many early exposures to Bondage. I wanted nothing more than to be “Lion-O” at that moment.
RUFF PIC: Last weekend at SIRS’ place…
A Post Rope Bondage picture. I mark up easily…
Happy New Year!!! (belated)
I’d like to take a moment away from everyone’s endless hunt for Porn to thank everyone for reading my Blog which started as a silly little hobby I started 5+ years ago as a way to show a certain SIR the kind of play I was looking for. It’s safe to say in that short period of time the world and internet have both changed a great deal. Not necessarily for the better for a Blogger. But, you know, despite the changes, it’s still fun. I enjoy expressing my kink interests, sharing what I find sexy and also very much enjoy promoting Kink Events around the world. Especially the smaller events. Coming from a small town in Ohio, it’s rather moving to see the smaller kink events grow.
So, you may have noticed that I took a little hiatus for about a month from Blogging. Back in December, I organized a 2nd trip for 14 friends to go to Hawaii. This year, we rented a house on Kealakekua Bay on the Big Island. It was crazy beautiful. Lots of adventures and laughing. In the end, my vacation was nearly 2 weeks long on the island with some of my most beloved and special friends including my boy. Life slows down while you’re on the islands. It’s a euphoric atmosphere and very relaxing. I actually forgot to blog.
A friend snapped this photo of me at Green Sands Beach.
So, after a month of very sporadic blogging, why start back up now?
Because, I’m fucking horny. Chastity sucks. (kinda)
During MAL 2014 I reconnected with a SIR I used to play with and have since been making regular visits to his home to serve him and his boyfriend. These visits woke the sleeping “Giant Bottom” in me. I’d been topping for years and loving it… yet, that bottom side of me went unattended to. Hell, I’ve even been a Puppy for them. It’d been 17 years since I had been in that sort of headspace. They are the reason why I am currently “locked up” and suffering from a severe case of blue balls.
These SIRs are certainly “fulfilling” that “bottom side” of me (all puns intended) and I think finally I’ve learned a healthy balance between being Dominant and submissive that I’ve fought to achieve for years. This makes me very happy.
I’ve been “locked up” for 4 days now but haven’t cum in 10 days per SIRS’ orders before a nearly 3 day visit tomorrow (I’d go longer if work permitted). As you might guess, when I am horny, I want to blog more. Being ordered to not to cum means more blog entries. I’m hoping they keep me locked up more so that I’ll want to blog more, too.
These new experience have made me think about the future of my Blog. If I have a New Year’s Resolution to share… it’s that I want to step up the quality of my silly blog hobby by doing more editorial blogging sharing some of the fun I’ve been having as a bottom *AND* a Top. Not in attempt to brag or boast about my experiences but to hopefully inspire as so many others do for me. In particular, to inspire guys my age that you can still have whatever kind of fun your heart (on) desires after you hit 40.
Starting with a photo of incredible suspension bondage I was put through in SIRS’ dungeon.
Happy New Year to all. May you find balance and adventure in 2015!
National Coming Out Day
This really made my day yesterday…
Current Gym Jam
Reminds me of Scissor Sisters meets electro-80’s Art of Noise.
Words of Wisdom
Apologizing doesn't always mean you're wrong and the other person is right. It means you value your relationship more than your ego.
— Beyoncé Knowles (@BeyonceKnowIess) July 29, 2014
Words of Wisdom
You, no matter how hard you try, can never please everyone. Follow your heart, make the most of everyday, and be proud of who you are.
— John Cena (@JohnCena) July 31, 2014
RUFF THOUGHTS: “Bondage Wish List”
Another Bondage Activity on the wish list. A Hog Sack. AKA a Gimp Sack. After being into Bondage for 20+ years, I still haven’t tried one. This is one of those items that’s hard to find. And, if you find one, you have to make certain that it’s made well. I’ve heard stories about poorly made Gimp Sacks tearing after one use. Also, it’s quite obvious that it’s gotta be stressful on the elbows and knees (especially “standing”) so you better be doing plenty of yoga prior!
If you have a suggested vendor for a Hog Sack or Gimp Sack, please feel free to leave a comment. I’d love to hear your experience in them, too!
Caption This!
Man, I love GOOGLE VIEW. Here is the house me and 14 friends are renting on the Big Island in Hawaii. I keep looking at it and having a giggle thinking about how it looks like one of those crazy religious compounds. Except, this one is going to be housing Puppies, CrossFit Bros, a Kylie Minogue Fanatic (worse than me), a Ginger Hulk, Rubbermen, a Cock Whore and a Leather Daddy.
Maybe I should warn the neighbors?!
I’m thinking… we need a clever name for our “Compound”. Any suggestions?
RUFF THOUGHTS: Pushing through limits
Recently, one of the SIRs I’ve been playing with told me that he went to a series of BDSM Classes. One of the classes he took was on Erotic Clothespin Play.
I fucking HATE clothespins. H.A.T.E. them. They know it (yes, two SIRs. A couple). Clothespins have been a limit of mine for as long as I can remember. They knows that, too.
He point blank told me that we would be doing playing with them on my next visit “because it pleases your SIRs”. At first, I was really against it. But, then I got hard over the idea of them pushing my limits. It’s been a long time since I had any Tops insist on pain play that I do not like. This says something about the connection I have been building with them. They know I don’t like it… but they also know how to guide me through it so I can grow past my limits.
I trust them. That feels great.
So, I was just on X-Tube and found this video. Picturing myself as the boy with my SIRs working those clothespins… I came WAY over my head right at the end of the video. It’s very encouraging.
Work Out Music
Lately, I’ve been listening to the new Basement Jaxx album “JUNTO” during my runs and gym time outside of CrossFit. I’d like to recommend this album for anyone looking for some happy pick me up music. It’s especially great vacation music while hanging out on the beach. I’m really hoping Basement Jaxx will tour the USA again. Their shows look look like a lot of fun.
RUFF THOUGHTS: “My own personal Chastity Challenge”
Yesterday, I received my Stainless Steel Chastity Cock Cage from Mr S Leather. I’ve tried A LOT of Chastity Devices and this one is my favorite. It’s the most comfortable and least likely to be damaged of all the devices I own. I’m so very happy with it. Especially, with the play date I have coming up in 5 days. I decided to challenge myself to wear the device until then (well… they decided). It’s only 5 days (my record is just under 2 months with no orgasm) but I’m very rusty on Chastity play as a bottom. The challenge this time around isn’t so much as a physical one but a behavioral one. I’ll describe below.
If you haven’t done chastity or are an inexperienced Top with Chastity Games, this may very well help with your D/s connection.
Chastity isn’t for everyone. As you may know, it causes some intense moments of Sexual Frustration. Some do not last more than a few hours because their hormones make them easily agitated. Totally understandable! Been there! You want to take it off, throw it across the room and immediately wank to your favorite Tumblr feed. Chastity just might not be your thing. And, that’s fine.
Then there’s my form of Sexual Frustration. For me, personally, when my Dick is locked up over a period of time, it makes me feel more submissive and eager to please. I can honestly say, for me, the Headspace when playing with full balls is truly more Euphoric than any Orgasm.
“Please, SIR, do not let me cum! I don’t want this to end!!!”
The downside of Chastity is that when I’m locked up without the opportunity to see the SIR for an extended period of time, it becomes less rewarding. I find myself needing interaction with the SIR several times a day. I’m 100% certain that I’ve exhausted SIRs with “I’m so Horny!” Text/IMs. (Thank you. You’ve been a Saints). I really hate when I get like that. I can’t help but to think of myself as “Sheldon” from “Big Bang Theory” knocking on “Penny’s” door.
So, with this 5 day stretch of Chastity, I have to say that starting off, I felt fine. But, within 6 hours I was “knocking on the door”. So, I’m challenging myself not to let myself to stronger and not become “Sheldon”. Keeping myself busy helps. I’m still working out, going to work, walking the dogs and being myself. Sure, I’m horny right now, but, I’m far from hard as I write this even with the Kidney Plug up my ass. More of a mental headspace.
BUT… we can’t ignore that it is most definitely a two way street.
Experienced Tops understand that interaction in the form of Praise, Pics and even Video from the SIR are always required. Tasks from SIR such as Hole Training, Kneeling practice or safe forms of solo bondage can also help the connection between play dates. Cybering and Skype isn’t for everyone but sometimes just seeing SIR’s face live can quell the “Demons” for a while. Just, you know, don’t forget you have another human’s genitalia locked away! (Yes, I know a Top that forgot)
Also, there’s the backup plan to help the boy in moments of desperation when the boy may act on a knee jerk reaction to his frustration and remove the device without permission. If you’re both serious about the role play, then there should be consequences. Punishment can come in several forms. The disappointed SIR could deny contact for a period of time. Also, the boy’s violation remembered in a later Play Date. And… if the boy is seriously on the edge of removing it, there’s always the idea of that promise the boy made to video himself applying Hot & Icy cream to his balls for 10 minutes BEFORE he removes the device. That might change his mind. It doesn’t feel great! (Thanks to a SIR on the west coast for that idea).
“Don’t you fucking cum, boy. I swear, you will regret it Physically and mentally (regret)”.
*Big Smiles from both*
In the end, I feel Chastity is all about MUTUAL fun, respect, caring and a stellar euphoric headspace that neither want to end anytime soon. I feel very lucky to have a few caring SIRs I can report to while in Chastity. They “get me” and understand my particular needs and headspace with this sort of role playing. I doubt I’ll be able to maintain Chastity on a regular basis due to athleticism and work place. I’ll take it when I can… and still be quite willing to share my new Chastity Device with some other boys. 😉
ALSO– If you’re a Top who can relate to this sort of fun, you are verrrryyy welcome to send me a message on RECON! 😉
LOL!: What’s the WORST thing you can say right after Sex?
I recently posted this on Twitter. The responses are too hysterical to keep to myself.
– “Your brother was better”
– “I’m done. Now leave”
– “You said you had a PS4?”
– “You can’t finish yourself off”
– “OK. I’m halfway in. Let me know when you’re ready for the next 6 inches”
– “That’s a perfectly acceptable after a 15 minute period of refractory assessment”
– “Thanks, Mum”
– “The itching goes away eventually”
My Current Gym-Jams
Love “DISCLOSURE”. Many thanks to “Ray-Bear” for insisting I listen to them. They’re great!